For a week now, we have had wonderful house guests here in Maine—and
together we shared “mercurial Maine”—in other words, sunny days interspersed
with incredible fog. So we did what
vacationers in Maine do—hike and swim on the sunny days and explore on the
foggy—and eat on all of them!!!
On a foggy day, we went over to Southwest Harbor and went to
Beal’s Lobster Pound—a true Maine lobster pound.
The boats come in and unload their great stacks of lobster
traps—it is a dangerous career—and not paying very well, now—with the big
crates pulled into the docks by cranes.
The lobsters will be sorted, some to go by truck to New York,
Boston and other waiting restaurants
And some to stay right there at Beal’s and other local
lobster pounds to be cooked up for shore dinners.
We ate our meal there, inside the giant screened porch—I
usually like to eat outside at the pounds, but the fog was mixed with rain, so
it was just too wet and cold.
Afterwards, of course, we cleaned up as you always do at the
pounds.
On the next day, which was unbelievable sunny (mercurial Maine!),
we went for a special tour of the Rockefeller Garden. What a beautiful spot it is! There are several amazing gardens on Mount
Desert Island—private ones, and ones open to the public such as the Asticou
Azalea Garden and Thuya Garden, but the Abby Aldrich Rockefeller Garden is the
most beautiful—in its own way—of them all.
Approached through the deep shade of spruces and firs and guarded by
fantastic oriental antiques, some as old as 500 years B.C., it is suddenly “there,”
after going from the shade of the forest, through a gate, and into a blaze of
colour in the sunshine—pink gravel paths bordered by clematis and delphinium
and hollyhocks and poppies and veronicas and dahlias and lilies and every
flower you can imagine
So beautiful—such an amazing gift to the country on the part
of John D. Rockefeller, Jr., as is so much of Acadia National Park.
Of course, afterwards, we went to the Jordon Pond House for
tea and popovers—piping hot with butter and Jordon Pond House strawberry jam.
Now that I have shown you pictures of the things our
houseguests and we did together, I will give you some helpful hints for being a
houseguest—although my guests this last week are perfect and never need any
hints!
Rules for being a good houseguest
Arrive when you are supposed to and leave the same—although
your host may ask you to stay longer, this is probably hyperbole, and should
not be seriously considered.
Always be on time for all planned activities and meals—and
remember, you are a guest, and you should never ask for any changes in room
assignments or food prepared.
Unless, and sometimes even if, the house in which you are
staying is just crawling with “help,” keep your room neat, make your bed upon
leaving it every morning (before you go to breakfast!) And help both before and
after meals. You will know very quickly
if you are not supposed to do this; usually, today, you are.
When there is help, always leave (with your host or hostess)
a sizeable tip for him/ her/ them.
Remember, you are adding to their load.
This tip is based on how long you are there and how much they do for
you—for instance, are they doing your laundry while you are there? Are they serving breakfasts at several times
allowing you to sleep in? And so on.
For some reason, people tend to go to bed earlier in the
country. Follow the example if your host
and hostess and toddle off when they do.
If you are used to staying up later, you can always read.
Arrive with a house present—again, in size in relation to
the length of your stay. If you feel you
should have done more, you can always add to it in a “sent” present after you
leave. Good house presents are things
that can be enjoyed by everyone while you are there, such as wine or cheese;
fruit or snacks; really, any kind of food so long as you don’t expect the foods
to be served while you are there. The
meals will have already been planned, and unless you have sent your offering
ahead, they may not be able to include it right then. Flowers are nice, or after you leave and know
what their house is like, something special for that house. Fun—but not too serious—writing paper or
really nice telephone pads—especially with matching pens—are always
appreciated. Things for the bar such as
a really nice set of glasses, cocktail napkins (if they have the help to iron
them!) Or an ice bucket are always liked, as is something for the table once
you know what their table is like.
Remember, when you gasp at the price of really nice things, a hotel
would have been a lot more.
If you are invited to go with them on their plane, remember,
never, never, unless asked, sit in the forward seats facing the front of the
plane. Those are reserved for the owners
of the plane. Obviously, this rule
pertains to larger planes with seats facing each other. The same goes for the seats around the open
deck of a large boat. They may give you
these seats, but do not assume them.
Just as important, never be late for a ride on a plane or in a
boat—never.
The moment you get home, write that bread-and-butter
letter. Right away!!!!!
I hope you had fun.
Xoxoxoxoxo Leta
Great post! And very good advice!
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This is a beautiful garden, what are those statuses?
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